What does it mean to be distinctive?

This question has engaged me for some time. It’s a question that arose when I first heard Alaric teach about our emerging true identity in Christ.

One of the marks of our true identity is that we are distinctive.

“Somebody who knows who they are will have no fear of sticking out of the crowd, because they have allowed their uniqueness to emerge. The temptation to be like others will be overcome. Many churches, as well as individuals, need this experience to allow God to breathe His creative life into their uniqueness. A distinctive fragrance will be on their character and personality. This also allows the power of the miraculous to flow through them.”

– Alaric Hunt, Sons of Destiny teaching manual.

When I first heard these words, I felt a stirring in my spirit, a desire to grow more fully into the distinctive person who God created me to be.

“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.”

– Paul Coelho

Watching babies and children engage with the world, their distinctive personalities and giftings are apparent from a very young age. In a good environment, children will thrive and have the confidence to use their God given talents, and pursue their callings. However, if children experience trauma, or grow up in an environment which is unsafe, unloving and critical, they may shut down their true identities, until such time as they receive healing and release to become who they are called to be.

Even as adults, we can all at times encounter opposition, rejection and setbacks. It is part of a spiritual battle we engage in to walk in our true destiny. There will always be pressures to conform to other people’s expectations.

As we grow in our identity as sons and daughters of Father God, we lose the fear of man, because we know it’s our Father’s opinion of us that really matters. And He delights in our distinctiveness. Fearfully and wonderfully made by our Creator, to a unique design, we are created to stand out, created to shine brightly, as we step into the light of His glory.

The picture I see in my mind is of the Father walking through a beautiful garden, stopping to examine each flower, admiring each one, gently lifting the heads of the blooms that have been crushed in the storms, healing them with just one touch.

Although every flower in the Father’s garden is different, with some appearing bolder and more brightly coloured than others, He loves each one equally. He takes just as much tender care over the young buds and the delicate flowers, which thrive in shady corners, as He does over the more extravagant blooms, which dance wildly in the breeze, reaching for the sun.

They are all loved by their proud Father, who designed them. He has no desire to change their blueprint, they don’t need to be genetically modified or forced to grow in artificial ways, they don’t need to strive and struggle to compete with others for attention. They are all hand picked, and planted in their perfect positions to show off the designer’s creative genius.

Have you ever tried to fit someone else’s picture of who you should be? If you have a tendency to want to please people, this is an easy trap to fall into. Yet it’s hard, painful work, being a square peg in a round hole! Hidden resentment or feelings of inadequacy start rising to the surface, as no matter how much you try, you simply can’t fulfil your greatest potential. You just don’t fit!

When we embrace our distinctiveness, we first and foremost honour our Creator, because we are believing and trusting in His design and His best plans for our lives. This sets us free to be in that place of perfect fit, where we can thrive and grow tall in stature, and effectively take our place, stepping more fully into our God given role in His Kingdom. This gives glory to the Father, who delights in who we are now, and who we are becoming.

And then… the power of the miraculous can flow through us to effect change in a broken world, and the glory of God manifests on the earth. All of creation is waiting.

“For the creation waits in eager expectation for the children of God to be revealed.” – Romans 8:19

– Jane 

Photo by Gabby Orcutt, courtesy of Unsplash. 


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